From A Personal Breakdown To A Purpose & Calling
In search of security and significance but blinded by the pursuit of worldly success and accomplishment...
TJ was about three years into his role as an analyst on the trading floor at Goldman Sachs. On paper he was a success. But inside he was a wreck. He was tired of being tired—attributing many of his problems to the pursuit of success based on others' expectations.
He desperately wanted to live a life of more meaning and purpose. And one that was authentic to him. But he slowly realized that as long as he was using control as a strategy and money as security, he would never be satisfied with his life or legacy.
In 2015, despite having a promotion opportunity, the Lord gave him peace to leave. TJ knew if took the promotion that it would lead him down the path of almost certain self-destruction. And while he trusted God for a better life, his next steps were still uncertain.
Within twelve months - after a couple re-locations, a new car purchase, a few start-up ideas, and six-digits worth of life savings wasted - he was now broke and broken. Meanwhile, around the same time, his dad was diagnosed with stage-four cancer. It was a devastating blow. But God used this first breakdown to bring a major breakthrough.
Although TJ was preoccupied with trying to solving surface-level challenges like the next career opportunity and how to make more money, God began to give TJ what he actually needed—a renewed mind, and a time to rebuild his identity.
On December 10th, 2016, TJ launched his first seminar called Welcome to Yourself—and finally found hope that there was a career path aligned with his gifts and passions. But over time, through his own process of healing, changing and growing, he realized “the right path” is actually a mentality.
During the next several years, with money he didn't have, TJ invested in himself (counseling, personal training, working with registered dietitians, business coaching and more). In that same time, Jesus delivered him from rage, broke off generational sin, brought inner healing stemming from adoption, physically encountered him with electricity through his body, increased the prophetic and other giftings, and heightened his sensitivity to hear God's voice...among other things. TJ was being rewired to learn a lifestyle obedience. Through multiple points of surrender, he began to see how he could live a life of peace. But he also had to re-learn a few things about what it means to be healthy and free. He had to discover that impact comes before money. And how it all starts with practicing how to receive.
Coaching, speaking, advising, mentoring, motivating, empowering, launching, leading. It’s always been in him. But submitting to God and fully trusting Him was the first and most important missing ingredient.
TJ found a new life, purpose, and calling...
While coaching has become one expression of his purpose and calling, TJ wouldn't say he has a true passion for coaching. It has come with many costly challenges. But TJ still pursues coaching because it's where the Lord is leading Him, it allows him personal freedom, he gets to make a significant impact, and he genuinely finds fulfillment in it.
He often hears people say "purpose" is their problem. But a lack of perspective is normally the core issue.
When put in the right environment with simple solutions reinforced over time, God's principles can renew your mind. These new beliefs will lead to new behaviors. And these new behaviors can leave a lasting legacy that changes the course of your family for generations. But it all starts with healing, changing and growing. It's inside-out transformation—spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. The root of change begins with the whole person—spirit, soul and body. That's how you change who you're becoming.
Since 2016, TJ has gone from coaching anyone who would sit down on his couch at his apartment in New York City...to now having spent 8+ years and more than 15,000+ hours in powerful coaching conversations that have led to hundreds of transformation stories...with top performers in sales, corporate executives, professional athletes, wealth managers, realtors, business owners, ministers, online influencers, and more.
What started as a personal breakdown transformed into a personal calling.
